Ever feel a sense of urgency like you have to rush and do everything in a MMO? I sure do. I’m playing FFXIV right now and I feel like I have to maximize my time effectively because there are so many things I want to accomplish.
I want to level up additional jobs to access their abilities and/or play them for fun. I need to earn money because I’m hemorrhaging gil every day. I want to run Ampador Keep to earn tomes of philosophy. I need to start crafting because the items I could make are so helpful. I know I should care more about reaching the tomestone of mythology cap each week, but if I do that it means I can’t do all of the other things I want.
For some reason I feel like I have to do all of this in a week. When I stop, take a deep breath, and focus I realize that I easily have 5-6 months before another MMO launches. I’m enjoying myself every time I log in to FFXIV. What’s the rush? I feel trained to maximize my 2-3 months because that’s what every game has been these days: a 3 monther. Reality is I have plenty of time to do everything I want and then some.
Part of my fear could very well be that I’m afraid people will quit or that suddenly I”ll be left behind. That’s another real MMO disorder I’ve suffered with for the last 15 years. There’s this concept that if I’m not playing on day 1 and keeping up then somehow I’m missing out. I know it’s absolutely not true, and luckily I’ve found a group of people who agree with me, but the feelings are always still there. The feeling is even worse in sandbox MMOs when I start questioning whether or not what I’m doing is actually moving me ahead or if I’m just treading water.
I think the trick really has been to ignore what the rest of the server is doing and simply set goals for myself. I’ll log in each day, run a dungeon or two if I feel like it, help guildies, maybe farm for 30 minutes to an hour,or perhaps skip all of that and just run fates on an alt. I’ll get there when I get there, and maybe I’ll even play the game longer as a result. I’ll take it one day at a time.